Adolescence is a stage of life difficult, delicate and full of conflict. Not for nothing is the transition from childhood to adulthood. Is marked by enormous physical changes, mental, emotional, behavioral and social relations.
place is often the beginning of adolescence with the first changes of puberty between 10 and l6 years. Adolescence itself is installed Baccalaureate at the time, between 17 and 18. It is more difficult to determine when it ends, but socially usually coincides with the emancipation of the youth of his parents' house and the beginning of their careers.
The teenager is a person who suddenly becomes the "other." From the physical point of view, he loses the child's body known. Experiencing external and internal changes for which he feels he has no control. It is as if suddenly faced with a stranger. Sexuality appears suddenly, there are also mental and emotional changes new, unknown until now.
Within the family, their behavior changes radically. Need more autonomy and privacy in the family. Become tight, surly and hostile to adults. Paradoxically, become extremely important friendships, relationships with peer groups, against which sometimes show large dependence and even any excessive.
This is because emotionally fluctuates and is torn between what was (child) and what he wants to be but still is not, (adult) in the middle of abrupt changes and mood swings.
The teenager, due to its fragile identity, acts rather than thinks. These actions are almost always are intended to assert, against the intervention of adults. There are teens who feel literally "invaded", perceiving adults and their rules as a threat against his fledgling identity. Therefore act in a rebellious, defiant and defensive mechanisms that hide a protective function of his individuality as a subject.
is in this context, which shows the so-called "pathology of action", studied in depth by Phillippe Jeammet, chief of psychiatry service at the Institut Montsouris youth of Paris and president of the school parents and educators , also author of books and articles on problematic adolescent and young adults.
Jeammet argues that under these conditions of action, associated with narcissism, are eating disorders (anorexia and bulimia), along with other risky behaviors, such as the abuse of alcohol and other substances toxic substances (cannabis, cocaine, ecstasy, etc ....). Also come under this category of conditions of risk, promiscuous sex, crime and violence and even the refusal to act (inaction or passivity end), and emotional relationships and even addictive and dependent, have recently appeared disorders dependencies associated with new technologies.
Within that adolescence is a difficult period, those who most suffer are those with low self-esteem and concerns about their identity, that is, those who have not satisfactorily resolved their narcissism. Will this be the highest risk group and those who have more difficulty stabilizing and enter the adult world. Either way, extend, unconsciously, behavior and adolescent lifestyles. This type of subjects, can be very influential: they give great importance to the views of their peers, need to look good at all times with the people they admire projecting an image of perfection. Bad bear any criticism and need the praise of others.
F. Dolto known French psychologist, a specialist in children and adolescents, says: "There are teenagers with no problems, no suffering, this is perhaps the most painful period of life."
But in adolescence, are not concerned only teenagers but also their parents, who should develop duels for growing children and themselves for the loss of his youth, adolescence because children often coincides with aging parents: that is, parents have to accept its reality, the passage of time and what this entails. Must clean up their narcissism to pave the way for the new generation.
The role of adults in their children's adolescence is extremely important. If arbitrate disputes with listening, tolerance, strong arguments, affection, but also impose rules and limits, will be contributing to relatively safely navigate the turbulent seas of adolescence.
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